Andy stanley new rules for dating
But when that begins to wane, the relationship can go in the same direction. It says that the relational part of the relationship should take precedent over the sexual or physical component of the relationship.
[tweetable]If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, put the relational component ahead of the sexual one.[/tweetable] RNS: How can a history of sexual abuse impact the way these rules function in your life?
The average person would hear that and say, “That’s not true.” But that is the approach most people take to romantic relationships.
The new rule is: don’t assume that just because you feel right, everything is going to be alright.
You used them in the same sentence, but they are different things.
The natural part of love is the feeling and chemistry part, but the doing part of love is unnatural.
RNS: You say that “love is unnatural.” A lot of people would say love is inherent to who we are as humans and one of the most natural things we can feel or express or do. AS: Love is natural in terms of a feeling, but not in terms of doing.RNS: Is it true that when you taught this content to your church, you talked about “bitches” and “hos” on Mother’s Day. I received one complaint via email from a guy visiting who felt like I was picking on a particular “culture.” I emailed him back and told him a culture comfortable referring to women as bitches and hos is a culture that views women as a commodity. AS: Twenty years ago, most of us considered pornography a pastime, not a pathway.A culture that views people as a commodity is a culture sliding towards softening their position on slavery. There was not that much information about the addictive nature of porn. For the guy who says, “This is just entertainment, and there isn’t anything morally wrong with that,” then I say, “You apparently think that a real body isn’t enough for you.The pastor of one America’s largest churches is peeling back the covers on topics that might make some Christians squirm.Andy Stanley, pastor of the 30,000 member North Point Ministries, addresses a range of issues from human sexuality to pornography in his latest book, The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating.